đŹ With your buddy
- Arrange a 1.5 h time slot with your study buddy to meet before the next Dojo session. If you can, schedule this meeting today.
- Start your meeting with a Values Sharing Circle. Share with each other, which values you've managed to live up to and which ones you haven't, since you last saw each other. (10 min)
- For each of you, articulate the Hard Steps for one value you hold. One person interviews the other first. Then you switch (30 min each). Work together to identify Hard Steps. Collect your questions and bring them to the next session.
Method: đŁ Finding Hard Steps
Articulate the Hard Steps for the value of your partner. This is difficult, so don't get frustrated if it doesn't work yet. Write down things that confused you, and we'll address them in the next dojo!
đ Filter for Shoulds/Coulds. Listen for what resonates in your body. Take notes!
Decide on the emotion that was most clear and present.
Write down the emotion, its immediate cause and how that relates to a value.
Emotion:
ex.: frustrated
Immediate Cause:
ex.: people were late
Value needs to be/was:
ex.: blocked
Ex: Aisha felt frustrated because people were late. That blocked her ability to treat her time as sacred.
Ex: James loves following his curiosity to expand into the unknown. His job at the textile factory is very repetitive. It feels impossible to live that way there. He ends up leaving work each day feeling depressed. Ex: Lian felt deeply hurt. It seemed unsafe to try to keep things respectful when she was under attack. How could her friend have said those cruel things about her? Ex: Abeoâs desire to win the game had taken over. He felt guilty about having cheated. Deep in his heart, he wished that he had approached things honestly, and admitted that he had fouled his opponent.
Emotion:
Immediate Cause:
Value needed to be/was:
Example: I just felt so weak in that moment... // What is your strong self like? How does that self (approach things/treat people/act/keep things/live life)?
Example: I'm completely incompetent... // What would it look like for you to be capable? How would you be able to (approach things/treat people/act/keep things/live life)?
Example: I was scared to say anything because I might lose my job. // How would you have been able to (approach things/treat people/act/keep things/live life) if you knew that you couldn't lose your job?
Example: The deadline was approaching, and I was just getting more and more frustrated... // How would you have been able to (approach things/treat people/act/keep things/live life) if you knew that you had all the time you needed?
Example: I just got so frustrated by the whole thing.
Are there other times that you have been frustrated like that? What way of (approaching things/treating people/acting/ keeping things/living life) seems blocked in those moments?
Example: I felt like it didn't even matter if I was there.
Can you think of a time when it seemed like it mattered that you were there? What was different? How were you able to (approach things/act/treat people/keep things)?
Example: It was all just so confusing. // What advice would you give to yourself in that situation? (Memento model). What way of (approaching things/treating people/acting/ keeping things/living life) would be important to remember?
Example: .And then I just felt horrible about the whole thing... // Can you think of a person who would have handled that situation better? How would they have (approached things/acted/treated people/kept things)? [CAREFUL: you might get an image according to which they are pressuring themselves here. If so, bring it back to a value or use another move.]
What would this situation look like if love would guide your choices? How would you approach things/ treat people/ act / keep things?
Outline the story again, but from the outside... as if it were about someone else. How is that person having trouble (treating people/acting/approaching things/keeping things)?
Name the đł Personal Value:
Make sure the value isn't bundled up with non-values and is phrased well for design purposes by running it through the values gauntlet.
Find a word or short phrase that captures your value (a way of being). Write it down:
Using the word above, answer these questions one at a time. (slowly works best)
1) To seem this way to others, I've been:
2) But on my own terms, being this way means being:
3) And people I admire for being this way inspire me because they are:
How would you name your value now?
Use your answers to 2) and/or 3). Write it here:
approaching things ___, treating people ___, acting ___, keeping things ___, living life __
Note: your value might already be spot on. If so, you don't need to answer the questions.
- Would it still be worth doing independent of the outcome? If so, continue to the next bullet point. If not, it's a goal or fear! Take notes below.
- Would it still be worth doing if no one knew you did it? If so, continue to the next question. If not, it's a social norm. Take notes below.
- Do you believe you could still be a good person even if you failed to be this way? If so, continue to the next question. If not, it's an internalized social norm. Take notes below.
- Would it still be worth being this way if no one else ever joined in? If so, (after all the questions above) it's probably a value! If not, itâs an ideological commitment. Take notes below.
"How would I want to approach things/treat people/etc. if I couldn't affect the outcome?"
"How would I want to approach things/treat people/etc. if no one noticed?"
"How would I want to approach things/treat people/etc. if there were no rules?"
"How would I want to approach things/treat people/etc. if I couldn't influence anyone?
Use any relevant answers to write out your value below.
Articulated personal values are the foundation of good values-based designs. So use the questions below to make sure your formulation is on point. Your personal value should be a clear, awareness-guiding, actionable directive. These three critera interpenetrate, but you can find examples and help below. Start by writing your value down here:
approach things _____, treat people _____, act (with) _____, keep things _____, live life ______
Personal Value:
Serge:
Treat people with curiosity as if they are mirrors of the greater, unconscious aspects of myself and as unique sources of insight into the landscape of my inner worlds
Nathan:
Live life in a way that supports others in discovering and enacting their best understanding of self-care
Is it CLEAR, or actually a vague concept?
Value phrases can be too vague to be useful for design. Make sure your phrase names something specific enough that it could guide a person's choices.
Bad formulations
- "Community". Imagine asking a theater director how you should play a friendship scene, and she says "community". I think you see the problem here.
- "Be Kind". Again, it's not clear how I could approach the situation, or what potential choices should stand out. I can't design with this formulation of my value.
- "Approaching things with a concrete sense of philosophical equanimity". What does that even mean? Often people will come up with a value that sounds interesting, poetic, or smart, but is actually so abstract that it doesn't matter to them in direct experience.
When you manage to live by your personal value, what are you noticing? What specific aspects of the situation should your personal value phrase bring into the foreground?
How would you tell an actor to be in a scene where they make choices based on that?
approach things _____, treat people _____, act (with) _____, keep things _____, live life ______
Better Formulation of a value around "how to be while criticizing people"
When you manage to live by your value, what are you noticing? What specific aspects of the situation should your value phrase bring into the foreground?
What I notice, and need to foreground: That we're both human beings, and that I make mistakes all the time, and that I often don't handle things the way I would have wanted to
How would you tell an actor to be in a scene where they make choices based on that?
Personal Value: approach other people's faults with humility and compassion, relate to them in a way that is deeply mindful of your own imperfections
Is it AWARENESS-GUIDING, or actually an instruction?
Value phrases tell you how to approach a situation. It shouldn't tell you what to do, but rather should bring relevant choices into the foreground.
Bad formulations
- "Criticize people in a way that doesn't upset them". This is clear, but doesn't show me where I should direct my awareness. (It's about a goal with other people).
- "Stay calm, and don't take things too personally". This is perhaps decent advice, but it's also an instruction, and doesn't help me focus my awareness on relevant choices.
- "Stick together through thick and thin". I can imagine what I'm supposed to do, but it's still just an instruction. Like "stay calm", it won't guide me towards what is important when I am making real choices.
Where should you direct your attention in order to live by this personal value?
Rephrase the personal value to make those things stand out:
Better Formulation of a value around "how to be while receiving criticism"
I need to figure out where to direct my attention. Not what to do, but how is it important to be when people are criticizing me.
Where should you direct your attention in order to live by this personal value?
Where Should I direct my attention?: That I stay open to connection. That I don't lose touch with the person and the relationship because I don't want to look at what they are showing me.
Rephrase the personal value to make those things stand out:
Personal Value: connect fearlessly, trust the person behind the mirror that they are holding up to you
Is it an ACTIONABLE DIRECTIVE or actually a description?
A value doesn't tell you what to do. It's an improvisational directive that helps you recognize opportunities to be a certain way. Does your value remind you of how you'd like to approach a given context?
Bad formulations
- "See the plank in my own eye when I look at the speck in yours". This might be capturing what inspires me when I reflect on my experience. But how would I act on this Biblical image? It's better to use less poetic language.
- "Don't feel resigned and isolated in difficult situations". This points in the direction of something important, but also isn't actionable. It doesn't really foreground choices that I could make.
- "Recognize that other people aren't the final judge of who I am". This is also in the direction of something important. But it wouldn't really foreground specific choices.
What are some ideas that would be important to keep in mind in that context? How would you tell an actor to approach a scene in which she lives by this value?
Rephrase your personal value to be more about how to proceed:
Better Formulation of a value around "how I want to treat my friends in tough times"
What are some ideas that would be important to keep in mind when things get difficult for friends? How would you tell an actor to approach a scene in which she lives by this value?
How would I tell an actor to play a scene with this value?: Think outside the box, and find solutions that could arise from collective efforts that wouldn't have been available to any one of you alone
Rephrase your personal value to be more about how to proceed:
Personal Value: keeping things creative when my friends are facing hardships, addressing problems collectively, drawing on the wealth of our communal talents
Example: I have
Articulate Your Value
Is it CLEAR, or actually a vague concept?
Value phrases can be too vague to be useful for design. Make sure your phrase names something specific enough that it could guide a person's choices.
When you manage to live by your value, what are you noticing? What specific aspects of the situation should your value phrase bring into the foreground?
Can you make that/those thing(s) more clear and salient in your phrasing?
approach things ___, treat people ___, act ___, keep things ___, live life ___
Example: I have a value around "how to be when receiving criticism"
Bad formulations
Better Formulation
Now it's your turn!
When you manage to live by your value, what specific ways of showing up are actually important to you?
Now rephrase your value to make that/those thing(s) stand out:
Example: I have a value around "how I want to treat my friends in tough times"
Bad formulations of my value
Now it's your turn!
When you manage to live by your value, what do you remember? What are some improvisational directives you could give to yourself in that context?
Now rephrase your value to to be about how to proceed:
Ask yourself: - What is hard about living by this value? - Which challenging action do I have to take to live by this value? - Where do my attempts to live by this value break down?
- NoticingâNoticing an internal or external stimulus, Attending to something, Tracking something.
- FeelingâNoticing, Identifying the emotion, Disentangling the immediate cause and associated beliefs.
- FocusingâNoticing, Selecting what to focus on, Attending to Something, Shifting focus, Tracking something over time, Keeping in mind, Staying in Touch with, Not getting distracted.
- Recognizing, IdentifyingâNoticing an internal or external stimulus, Having a Referent (e.g. previous experience with the thing I am trying to identify)
- Gathering information, Finding outâDiscovering, Investigating, Scanning forâKnowing what you need (to know, to look out for), Gaining access, Interpreting what you learn.
- Remembering, RecallingâRemembering how to do something or explicit knowledge, Having gained that knowledge, Remembering to remember.
- Generating, imagining alternatives (creativity)
- Assessing, discerningâAssessing, Evaluating, Discerning, Telling whether, Separating, Identifying.
- Deciding, Weighing, ChoosingâTrading off, Prioritising, Balancing more than one concern, Choosing the best ... (team, time, space)
- Modeling, ForeseeingâModeling interactions, Stepping into the shoes of the other, Foreseeing consequences, Anticipating.
- Changing Situations and GamesâMaking space for, Creating, Getting, Finding, Arranging, Collecting, Building, Borrowing, Asking for support with, Pausing, Rearranging
- Social SkillsâNegotiating, Listening, Asking, Understanding, Reminding, Providing support, Stepping into their shoes, Empathy
- Resources, Capacity, ExperienceâSetting yourself up ahead of time to do hard things later.
- Changing Course, Dealing with SetbacksâAccepting, Sitting with, Bearing, Knowing it's okay, Improvising, Stepping back, Aborting, Changing mental model, gear, lens.
- The (right) equipment (to) remember, identity, find, arrange, collect, build, borrow âDo you need a special kind of equipment? Whatâs hard to do about knowing what you need or getting those things?
- The (right) people (to) identify, gather, select, find, get on board, convince, build relationships with âDoes this value require a specific person? If so, whatâs hard to do about gathering people who fit the criteria? Whatâs hard to do about knowing where to find them? What kind of information would you need to tell if someone is right? Whatâs hard to do about gathering that information? âWhat would you need to set up long in advance?
- The (right) time and timing (to) identify, notice, make, schedule âDoes the moment need to be right? What would you need to be able to tell if the moment is right? Whatâs hard to do about evaluating that?
- The (right) setting (to) imagine, find, identify, set up, make, negotiate, decorate âIs this value easier in a specific setting? If so, whatâs hard to do about creating that setting? âDo you need a certain mood or situation? If so, whatâs hard to do about setting that mood / getting into that situation?
- Current capacity and needs (physical, intellectual, emotional) (to) Assess, bolster, provide support, keep in mind, make space for, listen to, ask about âWhat do you need to be capable of handling as it unfolds? What is hard to do about that?
- Skills, ability (to) Assess, bolster, practice, grow, accommodate, keep in mind
- Current mood/emotions (to) Assess, make space for, acknowledge, change plans for, improvise, change gears, model, foresee, track, keep in mind âWhat do you need to be able to feel? Whatâs hard to do about that? Whatâs hard to do about knowing when youâre ready to handle and feel those things? âDo you need a certain mood? Whatâs hard to do about setting that mood? âDoes this value require a person to be in a specific state? If so, whatâs hard to do about getting people into that state? What kind of information would you need in order to tell if someone is in the right state? Whatâs hard to do about gathering that info? Is the state you/they need to be in fragile? Whatâs hard to do about getting yourself/others there?
- Limiting beliefs (to) notice, identify, name, process, make time for, sit with, keep in mind, not get drawn into
- Sense of safety, trust (to) Assess, reassure, call to mind, remember, remind, provide support, keep in mind, ask about âAre there reasons it might be unsafe to do this? What kind of information do you need to decide? Whatâs hard to do about figuring out whether itâs safe in this particular situation?
- How might they see and understand me (to) model, assess, step into their shoes, remember, ask about, listen to, adjust course
- Status, Relationship Durability, Communication, Willingness to cooperate (to) assess, take into account, change, remember, remind, track over time, change, ignore, make space for, address
- Other consequences living by this value might have (to) assess, accept, sit with, make space for, hear out, mitigate, prepare for, remember, change, ignore
- â Solid Hard Step
- đ· Not an instruction. Is it an instruction you could turn into action right away? If not, make it one. Decide yourself at which point to stop making instructions more concrete. Mark tactics to address a Hard Step with a lightbulb.
- đ Potentially unnecessary. Ask yourself whether there is any way you can live by this value without doing this step? It's not always clear-cut whether a step is necessary or not. Ask yourself how helpful this step is and consider kicking it out.
- đČ Not really hard. Is this step hard to do? If not, find what is hard to do or kick it out.
- âïž Too unique. Does it apply across cases? If not, make it less unique or kick it out.
- đĄ A tactic for addressing a Hard Step. Write them underneath the Hard Step they address when they happen upon you and mark them with a lightbulb.
- NoticingâNoticing an internal or external stimulus, Attending to something, Tracking something.
- FeelingâNoticing, Identifying the emotion, Disentangling the immediate cause and associated beliefs.
- FocusingâNoticing, Selecting what to focus on, Attending to Something, Shifting focus, Tracking something over time, Keeping in mind, Staying in Touch with, Not getting distracted.
- Recognizing, IdentifyingâNoticing an internal or external stimulus, Having a Referent (e.g. previous experience with the thing I am trying to identify)
- Gathering information, Finding outâDiscovering, Investigating, Scanning forâKnowing what you need (to know, to look out for), Gaining access, Interpreting what you learn.
- Remembering, RecallingâRemembering how to do something or explicit knowledge, Having gained that knowledge, Remembering to remember.
- Generating, imagining alternatives (creativity)
- Assessing, discerningâAssessing, Evaluating, Discerning, Telling whether, Separating, Identifying.
- Deciding, Weighing, ChoosingâTrading off, Prioritising, Balancing more than one concern, Choosing the best ... (team, time, space)
- Modeling, ForeseeingâModeling interactions, Stepping into the shoes of the other, Foreseeing consequences, Anticipating.
- Changing Situations and GamesâMaking space for, Creating, Getting, Finding, Arranging, Collecting, Building, Borrowing, Asking for support with, Pausing, Rearranging
- Social SkillsâNegotiating, Listening, Asking, Understanding, Reminding, Providing support, Stepping into their shoes, Empathy
- Resources, Capacity, ExperienceâSetting yourself up ahead of time to do hard things later.
- Changing Course, Dealing with SetbacksâAccepting, Sitting with, Bearing, Knowing it's okay, Improvising, Stepping back, Aborting, Changing mental model, gear, lens.
- The (right) equipment (to) remember, identity, find, arrange, collect, build, borrow âDo you need a special kind of equipment? Whatâs hard to do about knowing what you need or getting those things?
- The (right) people (to) identify, gather, select, find, get on board, convince, build relationships with âDoes this value require a specific person? If so, whatâs hard to do about gathering people who fit the criteria? Whatâs hard to do about knowing where to find them? What kind of information would you need to tell if someone is right? Whatâs hard to do about gathering that information? âWhat would you need to set up long in advance?
- The (right) time and timing (to) identify, notice, make, schedule âDoes the moment need to be right? What would you need to be able to tell if the moment is right? Whatâs hard to do about evaluating that?
- The (right) setting (to) imagine, find, identify, set up, make, negotiate, decorate âIs this value easier in a specific setting? If so, whatâs hard to do about creating that setting? âDo you need a certain mood or situation? If so, whatâs hard to do about setting that mood / getting into that situation?
- Current capacity and needs (physical, intellectual, emotional) (to) Assess, bolster, provide support, keep in mind, make space for, listen to, ask about âWhat do you need to be capable of handling as it unfolds? What is hard to do about that?
- Skills, ability (to) Assess, bolster, practice, grow, accommodate, keep in mind
- Current mood/emotions (to) Assess, make space for, acknowledge, change plans for, improvise, change gears, model, foresee, track, keep in mind âWhat do you need to be able to feel? Whatâs hard to do about that? Whatâs hard to do about knowing when youâre ready to handle and feel those things? âDo you need a certain mood? Whatâs hard to do about setting that mood? âDoes this value require a person to be in a specific state? If so, whatâs hard to do about getting people into that state? What kind of information would you need in order to tell if someone is in the right state? Whatâs hard to do about gathering that info? Is the state you/they need to be in fragile? Whatâs hard to do about getting yourself/others there?
- Limiting beliefs (to) notice, identify, name, process, make time for, sit with, keep in mind, not get drawn into
- Sense of safety, trust (to) Assess, reassure, call to mind, remember, remind, provide support, keep in mind, ask about âAre there reasons it might be unsafe to do this? What kind of information do you need to decide? Whatâs hard to do about figuring out whether itâs safe in this particular situation?
- How might they see and understand me (to) model, assess, step into their shoes, remember, ask about, listen to, adjust course
- Status, Relationship Durability, Communication, Willingness to cooperate (to) assess, take into account, change, remember, remind, track over time, change, ignore, make space for, address
- Other consequences living by this value might have (to) assess, accept, sit with, make space for, hear out, mitigate, prepare for, remember, change, ignore
Method: âŁïž Emotions to Values
Use your own emotions to find a đł personal value.
To begin with harvesting your own emotions, step back into your memory. Pick a situation you experienced in the past weeks that felt emotionally challenging for you. This worksheet is most interesting to go through for a situation that brought up challenging emotions that are linked to the situation itself (more than to general life problems or previous trauma). Here are some questions to help you flesh out your memory.
- Where were you? With whom? What happened? What emotions came up? How did they manifest in your body?
Type your answers here:
In step 1, you identified different emotions that came up. decide on the one that was most clear and present. Think about the immediate cause of the emotion.
Write down your emotion and its immediate cause.
Example: I felt frustrated because people were late.
Find the emotion that came up on the list below and ask yourself some of the remove: prompting questions. Challenging emotions point us towards values that were blocked, that we could not attend to, that were suppressed and so on.
If the emotion you wrote down does not match the emotions listed beneath, go for the one that is closest. For each emotion, you'll find several questionsâpick the one that seems most helpful, and take notes.
What's worth protecting?
What way of living is blocked?
What way of being has no space here?
Take Notes:
What's worth protecting?
What way of living is blocked?
What way of being is not safe to emerge?
Take Notes:
What's worth protecting?
What way of living is blocked?
What way of being is not safe to emerge?
Take Notes:
What's worth protecting?
What way of living is threatened?
What way of being can you not bear to give up on?
Take Notes:
What's worth protecting?
What way of living is threatened?
What way of being can you not bear to give up on?
Take Notes:
What's worth protecting?
What way of living is threatened?
Take Notes:
What's worth recovering?
What way of living is overridden?
What value did you fail to live by?
Take Notes:
What's worth recovering?
What way of living did you neglect?
Take Notes:
What's worth recovering?
What way of living did you neglect?
What did you fail to prioritise?
Take Notes:
What's worth recovering?
What way of living did you give up on?
What do you no longer trust yourself with?
Take Notes:
What's worth honoring?
What way of living is lost for now?
What way of living has become impossible?
Take Notes:
What is worth protecting?
What way of living is violated?
Take Notes:
What's worth recovering?
What way of living is estranged?
Take Notes:
What is worth protecting?
What way of living is violated?
Take Notes:
What is worth protecting?
What way of living is violated?
Take Notes:
What's worth honoring?
What way of living is lost for now?
What way of living has become impossible?
Take Notes:
What's worth honoring?
What way of living is lost for now?
What way of living has become impossible?
Take Notes:
What's worth honoring?
What way of living is lost for now?
What way of living has become impossible?
Take Notes:
What's worth recentering around?
What way of living is out of focus?
What way of living do you not know how to bring to this?
What ways of living seem to be in conflict with each other?
Take Notes:
What's worth recentering around?
What way of living is out of focus?
What way of living do you not know how to bring to this?
What ways of living seem to be in conflict with each other?
Take Notes:
What's worth nurturing?
What way of living is unsafe to emerge?
What's worth identifying?
What way of living would allow the above emerge?
Take Notes:
What's worth nurturing?
What way of living is unsafe to emerge?
What's worth identifying?
What way of living would allow the above emerge?
Take Notes:
What's worth nurturing?
What way of living is unsafe to emerge?
What's worth identifying?
What way of living would allow the above emerge?
Take Notes:
What's worth nurturing?
What way of living is unsafe to emerge?
What's worth identifying?
What way of living would allow the above emerge?
Take Notes:
What's worth demoting?
What way of living doesn't make sense anymore?
What's worth embracing?
What way of living will save the above?
Take Notes:
What's worth nurturing?
What way of living seems impossible?
Take Notes:
What's worth nurturing?
What way of living seems impossible?
Take Notes:
What's worth nurturing?
What way of living seems impossible?
Take Notes:
What's worth nurturing?
What way of living seems impossible?
Take Notes:
Take Notes:
What's worth nurturing?
What way of living seems impossible?
Take Notes:
First look at examples.
Example:
Step 2 (emotions and immediate cause): I felt frustrated because people were late
Step 3 (value questions): What way of living is blocked? Treating my time as sacred
Emotion:
ex.: frustrated
Immediate Cause:
ex.: people were late
Value
treating time as sacred
I love following my curiosity to expand into the unknown. My job at the textile factory is very repetitive. It feels impossible to live that way there. I ends up leaving work each day feeling depressed.
Emotion:
depressed
Immediate Cause:
job is repetitive
Value
following curiosity to expand in to the unknown
I felt deeply hurt. It seemed unsafe to try to keep things respectful when I was under attack. How could my friend have said those cruel things about me?
Emotion:
hurt
Immediate Cause:
my friend said cruel things
Value
keep things respectful
Ex: Abeoâs desire to win the game had taken over. He felt guilty about having cheated. Deep in his heart, he wished that he had approached things honestly, and admitted that he had fouled his opponent.
Emotion:
guilt
Immediate Cause:
cheated in the game
Value
approach things honestly
Then use answers from steps 2 and 3. Find the emotion, immediate cause, and the value. Remember: a value is a way you could have approached things, a how that you believe in.
From Step 2:
Emotion:
Immediate Cause:
| From Step 3:
Value
Hint: These pre-fixes are often helpful when articulating your value...
approaching things ___, treating people ___, acting ___, keeping things ___, living life ____
Make sure that your value isn't polluted with norms, goals, fears, etc.
Find a word or short phrase that captures your value (a way of being). Write it down:
Using the word above, answer these questions one at a time. (slowly works best)
1) To seem this way to others, I've been:
2) But on my own terms, being this way means being:
3) And people I admire for being this way inspire me because they are:
How would you name your value now?
Use your answers to 2) and/or 3). Write it here:
approaching things ___, treating people ___, acting ___, keeping things ___, living life __
- Would it still be worth doing independent of the outcome? If so, continue to the next bullet point. If not, it's a goal or fear! Take notes below.
- Would still be worth doing if no one knew you did it? If so, continue to the next question. If not, it's a social norm. Take notes below.
- Do you believe you could still be a good person even if you failed to be this way? If so, continue to the next question. If not, it's an internalized social norm. Take notes below.
- Would it still be worth being this way if no one else ever joined in? If so, (after all the questions above) it's probably a value! If not, itâs an ideological commitment. Take notes below.
"How would I want to approach things/treat people/etc. if I couldn't affect the outcome?"
"How would I want to approach things/treat people/etc. if no one noticed?"
"How would I want to approach things/treat people/etc. if there were no rules?"
"How would I want to approach things/treat people/etc. if I couldn't influence anyone?
Use any relevant answers to write out your value below.
If you made it through the checklist, make one final draft that captures your value in the box below. If your value changed after the checklist, write your clarified đł Personal Value in the box below using one of the following pre-fixes.
Sergio:
Treating people with curiosity as if they are mirrors of the greater, unconscious aspects of myself and as unique sources of insight into the landscape of my inner worlds
Anne:
Approaching scheduling as an ambitious agent of my one short life.
Nathan:
Living life in a way that supports others in discovering and enacting their best understanding of self-care
approaching things ___, treating people ___, acting ___, keeping things ___, living life ____
đšđ» On your own (optional)
- Take a moment each morning to reflect on the most meaningful/beautiful and most challenging times of the previous day. You might want to take notes in your journal. Can you identify a Hard Step that you managed to overcome or that kept you from living by your value?
- Share your articulated value and the Hard Step you found with your peers on the Whats App Group.