Begin by thinking of a way that you used to approach something, but that has changed. Choose a way that was a value (or very close to one).
Examine the transition from the old to the new approach. Usually there is a conflict involved, some hard-earned wisdom that you gained along the way. Or maybe you found a new role model?
Old approach: I used to enjoy keeping intellectual conversations rigorous and harsh. I would attend to the rationality of the arguments, and disregard the speaker's relationship to the claims made.
What happened? I hade many people who couldn't handle this type of conversation. They felt I was aggressive and personal, even mocking. This conflicted with my value of treating people with respect and care.
New approach: I try to keep things explorative, asking open ended questions and focusing on what my interlocutor's relationship and history with the presented beliefs are.
Once we've both outlined the story of our transitions, we will share our wisdom.