In Struggle Mapping we pick a value, and try to diagram out why it'd be possible to live by it in some settings, impossible in others. In this version of the activity, we'll focus on relationships and why they can form in some environments but not others.
You are going to make your own diagram that has a value and three columns, like this:
First Column — Relationships
In the first column, you'll put the relationships which help you live by the value. For instance, in this example,
Second Column — How Do I Find, Make, or Use Those Relationships?
Find / Make
In order to have whatever relationships you want in the first column, you're going to need to either find people like that, or make them like that. Usually a mix of both. Try to write down what you would need to be able to do, in order to find or make such relationships.
- Usually to find something, you need a source of candidates and an evaluation skill or method.
- To make a relationship, you may need to teach something, or lead something, or guide someone.
Use
Once you have these relationships, you may need to be able to do even more, to use them for living by the value. What else would you need to be able to do?
Third Column — Hard or Impossible Steps
In the last column, you want to reduce the second column to individual actions which are possible in some environments, not in others.
Your First Impossibility Maps
First, map one of your own values—something you've been able to live by in some settings, and not in others. Then, try interviewing someone else and making an impossibility map for a value you don't share. For instance, play
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- Describe the setting (people, relationships, mood, internal information, etc)
- Noticing—Noticing an internal or external stimulus, Attending to something, Tracking something.
- Feeling—Noticing, Identifying the emotion, Disentangling the immediate cause and associated beliefs.
- Focusing—Noticing, Selecting what to focus on, Attending to Something, Shifting focus, Tracking something over time, Keeping in mind, Staying in Touch with, Not getting distracted.
- Recognizing, Identifying—Noticing an internal or external stimulus, Having a Referent (e.g. previous experience with the thing I am trying to identify)
- Gathering information, Finding out—Discovering, Investigating, Scanning for—Knowing what you need (to know, to look out for), Gaining access, Interpreting what you learn.
- Remembering, Recalling—Remembering how to do something or explicit knowledge, Having gained that knowledge, Remembering to remember.
- Generating, imagining alternatives (creativity)
- Assessing, discerning—Assessing, Evaluating, Discerning, Telling whether, Separating, Identifying.
- Deciding, Weighing, Choosing—Trading off, Prioritising, Balancing more than one concern, Choosing the best ... (team, time, space)
- Modeling, Foreseeing—Modeling interactions, Stepping into the shoes of the other, Foreseeing consequences, Anticipating.
- Changing Situations and Games—Making space for, Creating, Getting, Finding, Arranging, Collecting, Building, Borrowing, Asking for support with, Pausing, Rearranging
- Social Skills—Negotiating, Listening, Asking, Understanding, Reminding, Providing support, Stepping into their shoes, Empathy
- Resources, Capacity, Experience—Setting yourself up ahead of time to do hard things later.
- Changing Course, Dealing with Setbacks—Accepting, Sitting with, Bearing, Knowing it's okay, Improvising, Stepping back, Aborting, Changing mental model, gear, lens.